It's just voyeurism, you know

Let me ask you a question. Would you like to stand outside someone's house and just watch them? Assume for the moment that you can't be caught. You could see how they eat, how they sleep, and how they treat each other. You could even look in on their most private moments.

Of course, most of us wouldn't want to do that. We'd be Peeping Toms, living our lives through others. Voyeurism isn't just illegal. That would be bad enough. It's also deeply weird.

So why is pornography any different? It's just people doing things they shouldn't with people they shouldn't do them with, in places they shouldn't be doing them. And there we are, watching.

Please don't think I'm letting the people who make it off. I'm not. The things they do are wrong. However, I think it's safe to say that a good many of them wouldn't do those things if there weren't money to be made from it, and the only reason there's money in it is that so many people are willing to pay for the privilege of being Peeping Toms.

I have to confess that I had a problem with porn for years. Specifically, the problem was that I had no problem with it. I didn't see anything wrong with pornography, though I didn't want my wife, my children, my parents, the people I went to church with, the ones at work ... really, i didn't want anyone to know what I was doing.

Porn is a lonely addiction.

Yes, I said addiction. Just like an alcoholic will always be one even if he hasn't had a drink in 20 years, I think it's something that will be with me until I die, because even now it still comes to mind and has to be forced down. Besides, you can't unsee anything.

Every voyeur knows that.